January 10, 2014 sexyknees

Nikki 14

We all have our limits when it comes to coping.  As of late I have encountered difficulty with caregiving, managing stress, and dealing with the knowledge that the actions I have taken hurt my significant other.  It is hard to find good coping skills when it involves pain you have caused a loved one.  I am angry at myself for being so foolish and selfish.  You think you are doing the best you can, but hindsight always reveals that you could have done much better.  And when your battery is low – or worse, dry – it becomes very difficult to manage your thoughts and feelings.

Fortunately, there are plenty of resources to help you through difficult times.  As you know, I am a firm believer in therapy, NA, NAMI, and, most recently, anger management classes.  I will even be attending a retreat for loss and healing in the near future.  We can all do better – the trick is to recognize when you need help and seek assistance before any damage is done.  A good rule of thumb is when that little voice in the back of your head whispers that you are doing wrong, assume it is true.  I ignored my little voice, even when it was screaming, and sailed on while telling myself that staying the course and seeing things through was the only option.  Even though this is generally true (excluding glaring exceptions like Little Big Horn, Vietnam, and Soviet Afghanistan), always remember that every ship needs to deviate when there’s an iceberg ahead (Titanic).

So, do what I do and find support groups which suit your needs and go to the meetings regularly.  Listen to others’ experiences as you will gain plenty of coping skills from those who have already endured your torment.  Most importantly, learn from your mistakes so that you do not repeat them!

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  • 1. Bill FootCrazy  |  January 11, 2014 at 1:55 am

    Nikki As I am sure you are aware we all have voices that we hear. Some bad some good but we must weed thru the static to hear the voices that are best for us. They are not always the same voices that our hearts tell us but they are there, we just need to listen carefully enough. Luv ya gurl

  • 2. Bill FootCrazy  |  January 12, 2014 at 6:58 am

    Nikki how can I contact u?

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